If your child is afraid of school, there must be a reason. "Scared at School" is the concept of experiencing fear and concern, there must be some kind of threat that the perception of your child's regular education are concerned. There are many reasons why a child may be afraid, fear or threat, not necessarily related to the school. Could be one or a combination of factors that your child is afraid. Your task is tofrom the root of the problem and find solutions together.
Usually there are two models to determine if the child is afraid of the school the child or acts directly in any way, when approaching the time of the school (such as plants, despite, or even say that there is a problem at school and He does not want to go) or indirect signs of anxiety (as it often is not as obvious or serious illness of delay to prepare to leave for school). If the child showsone of those signs visible only at school but not now rarely school, such as holidays or weekends, the fear is probably the culprit.
So what should parents do if the school happened avoidance symptoms? And equally important, what should a parent? The best approach is a book calm and communicative. Rather than simply: "You go to school and that finals!" If you talk about your time with your child and find the root of the problem. Once you know why there is fear,The child should also take help to find a solution that the child will feel more relaxed and comfortable return to school, to know that the problem is eliminated and that the mom or dad is there to be supporting it.
There are a number of reasons why a child is to avoid school for fear. Some are of age, while others may be equal or academic context. Here are some common, open issues are invited to show your child that you and I hope that you will know that all will be to Fix YouProblems, so you can enjoy a return to school without fear:
1. Can children: the children go, fear or concern for the school and that occurs outside of school, kindergarten or first grade when he was well treated by separation anxiety or fear of the unknown. Your child questions like "Why are you going?" and "Is it because you think you miss me during the day?" If the answer is yes, there are great solutions to this problem that allows the child toprotected and feel safe, what is facilitating the transition to school. As parents, you can ask the child: "What can I do to help that too?" Perhaps you could offer to go and stay with your child a few minutes every day for the first week or two, sit in silence and leave the door slides with a small wave. If this is not possible, ask your child if you feel better if you have time to volunteer at school once or twice a week, either in class or in another area. This makesChildren feel safe, you know in the vicinity of their fears overwhelm you. After a short time, this was your child in the school of experience with enthusiasm and are weaned new friends or activities, knowing it is safe and even fun.
2. Children of all ages who have worked well with the school, but suddenly show great strength and constant: Once again, there must be a reason. Some questions are as follows: "Is anyone in the school is uncomfortable doing?", "Theresomething happens that makes you afraid to go to? "Or" I know that you like at school before this. What's going on, so you change your mind? "Chances are, your child from their peers, a tyrant, or even feel threatened, a teacher of external means. This should never be allowed. While you have your battles wisely as to raise the age of your child and skills to overcome those obstacles, it is important to know your child, you can help eliminate this problem. according to age andSituation, some options are a parent-teacher conference for the Faculty of problem you found, warning, setting a school counselor with both the peer-tyrant, the child and talk through the issue or even a proper word, not offensive, with comparison to the other parent of the child. Let your child know what actions you intend to take to ask whether this or some other approach would be the child feel more secure, then let your child what was the situation handled, assured him that theSource of anxiety is gone. If the child is much older, talk to each other will help your child with strategies to resolve the tension, making the school attractive again. No matter what the progress of transactions, the child knows he has a lawyer, makes school fun and safe for him and for others.
3. Children of all ages who have worked well with the school, but gradually some resistance, or simply refuse to show a day here and there: this isProbably an academic question. To avoid this, you should try to be constantly informed on the progress of your child. Maintain your leadership, academic diligence is a priority is to help your child on track. But even in these situations your child is struggling with a particular subject or a test or paper due that day, for which it has not been prepared. This information is the most difficult to obtain from your child, because they are not searching for your protection, they are from, what will happen if you know to be afraid.Again, the key to communication. Let your child with you at the message that if this is the problem, what will you do until you can not do its part. Some questions are as follows: "You have a test today?", "You finish the project?" O "Having trouble with your classes?" These responses do not let your child, and perhaps even the teachers know that there is a problem in order to work together as a couple or group for the past. When problems in a class orOtherwise, the status issue can express your dissatisfaction with the problem, but also help find a solution, such as tutoring, help with homework or buying a bit 'of extra material for use in homes, it is in the interest of the child (mathematics, for example, a CD-buff who are struggling alone) with the textbook of mathematics. If your child is a cause for sudden and related test or assignment, you must press the irrationality of the situation, let the child know that it happened, andEnsure the arrival of the child in school to deal with the situation he has created. We can not let him away with irresponsibility. Accountability is important and is an excellent tool for the protection of the child does not repeat this mistake, so do not worry, for experience.
If your child is afraid to go to school, there is definitely a reason. He's done a terrible answer, without a triggering event. Maintain open lines of communication. Do not go for the child in an environment wherealone did not create. Help your child to find mutually acceptable solutions on which acts both to solve problems. And if the child does not live up to its responsibility to face him, because he has caused, but make sure he knows that is not a reason to be afraid, if it is part of the next period. In each of these strategies, you're building a relationship, let your child know it's not alone, and raised him to find a good solution for your concept,Active teaching with good problem-solving skills. If your child knows how to avoid or eliminate this terrible situation, he will welcome the academic environment and to grow successfully.
Side note: I only had a brief problem with my first child. After several years the public schools, I made the choice to school my children at home. Some children do better in public schools, he felt better at home. Not for everyone, but it was definitely for us. If youThink about home school your child (ren), the search for the laws of your country and talk with other parents before making a final decision, he informed. For me, I have never regretted it.